"Presuming that Dottie Sandusky is not a pedophile herself, who enjoyed listening in on the suffering of rape victims (something that would require extensive investigation of Mrs. Sandusky, criminally and psychologically), then she lived with a serial rapist and never consciously suspected him of wrongdoing. How can that be? One possibility is that Dottie Sandusky’s entire life story has been one of burying the facts, again and again, in order to preserve some semblance of normality… Of course, there is another possibility: There are people in the world who have horrifically violent and abusive fantasies, but may swear to themselves and others that they do not. Such individuals may “recruit” destructive people into their lives, in order to vicariously enjoy their aggression. In this way, they are assailants “by proxy."